Philip Spicksley Registered Celebrant  

Alternative and Bespoke Life Ceremonies

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April 2020


Good Morning Phil,

Just a brief few lines to thank you for conducting mum’s service yesterday.

As you can imagine, none of us were looking forward to it, but it was a lovely occasion, if not a little strange with the seating plan!

However these are exceptional times and we all understood why it had to be done.

Thank you for the suggestion of the writing of letters to mum – everyone agreed it was so nice and much more personal.

Dad said that the songs we picked were perfect too and, although it will take a long time to come to terms with, he loved your service throughout.

Sarah and Jono were able to watch in Dubai via webcam too .

and also contacted me later to say how nice it had been.

Once again, on behalf of the family, thank you for everything you have done.

Take care,

Sam



April 2018



Dear Phil

I am writing to thank yo so much for your contribution to Peter's funeral service. We all felt that the organisation behind it and the conducting of it by you could not have been better. It leaves us with most satisfying memories which, I am sure, will be long lasting.

Your symbolic story for Aaron was I am sure appreciated and enjoyed by all of us, not just the grandson. In fact we have already had three notes from friends and family saying how memorable the service was and one specifically mentioned your story.

I have just written a letter to Mark (Funeral Director) expressing the family's gratitude to you both. I have put the flowers on the terrace and they are still looking good. Peter I am sure would have been hugely appreciative of everything you did.

Again thanks

With all our Best wishes. Jill Lankester

March 2017

Thankyou Phil for a beautiful service for Dad yesterday. When we met to plan the words we were impressed but hearing them yesterday was so special. You put in personal touches & thoughts & it all added to giving Dad the send off he deserved.

You made a tough day really special with how you conducted the service & we wanted to send you our personal thanks on behalf of the family.

Tonya, Johanne, Linda & family.

 Dear Mr Spicksley,

Thankyou very much for the way you conducted the service at Alberts funeral.

It made a very sad day into a celebratory one and lifted our spirits, Yours sincerely Pam Vandome

Dear Mr Spicksley

Just a few words to thank yo for helping my daughter and I arrange my Brother Michael's funeral, The advice you gave us for music and poems were perfect, you must be very proud of the work you do. Yours Sincerely, Jean Parker

I just wanted to thank you once more for the service you conducted for my Gran, 

I thought about the information about her that we provided to you and wondered how on earth could you present it,

but you did it well with compassion and dignity, even the small things about her that seemed irrelevant you put across

as important, that probably were important parts of her life. Little touches as well like the Lords Prayer you asked

for those that want to join in was nice it gave people choice. You actually spoke as if you knew her well. Thanks again.

Adam Walton

Many thanks for doing a great job yesterday. The service was great - just how grandma would have wanted it to be.

Everyone who attended said the same.

Helen Tonge

 Phil

Just thought I'd send you a quick email to thank you so much for all your help yesterday.

It was a very emotional day, but you managed it so that it ran as smoothly and we didn't over -run!!

It meant a lot to us all.

Adrienne Buchanan

Dear Phil

I am writing to thank you for the way in which you conducted my mother's funeral service. Both yourself and

Alastair Huteson were very professional yet sensitive and humane. For me and my family it was a very special,

memorable occasion - one that we will always cherish.

Yours sincerely Peter J. Thompson

 Hello Philip

I just wanted to drop you a line – and I believe my brother Ian was thinking of doing the same – to thank you for the service last Wednesday 2 December. A number of people commented on the service afterwards and they were all very positive. 

Incidentally, my brothers and I thought you did very well to make sense of the gibberish we came up with on the preceding Saturday, so again, thank you.

Kind regards

  Trish Dawson

Thank you for the beautiful reading you gave at Baby Williams funeral.

We couldn't of asked for anything better. Your words meant a lot to us. Love Mark and Holly

Hi

Just a quick email to say " Thanks so much" the service was lovely and you did us proud. Everyone said to us how nice it was to hear all about Mum and her life. Like you said it was a celebration and it was just right.

Thanks so much we will remember this day and what you said about her for a long time.

Many Regards

Jan

Hi Phil

Thank you for a lovely send off. Couldn't have been better.

Chris

20/04/2010

Dear Phil

Please accept our sincere thanks for the way you conducted the celebration of Eric's life yesterday, it was exactly what he would have wished.

Kind Regards Joan and family

Dear Philip

I would like to thank you for the beautiful service you carried out at my mother's funeral last Monday.

I’m not a very religious person and I had never heard the term ' funeral celebrant before so when Tony Alexander of Alexander's Funeral Care explained exactly the kind of service you could provide I was delighted to have been offered that option and I am so pleased that Tony recommended you. The care you took and the time spent with me prior to the service was greatly appreciated and I feel the sensitivity you showed was very special. The service you prepared truly reflected the emotions and feelings, not only of myself and family, but all my friends also. Everyone spoke very highly of you and your professionalism.

So thank you once again for making that day so special.

Kindest Regards

Patricia Ferrari

28/07/2010

Dear Phil.

We would like to offer a sincere thank you for your role as celebrant for Ron's funeral on Tuesday 13th July.

We would also like to thank you for your support, advice and patience. Your attention to detail was appreciated and favourable comments were received from all who attended.

once again, many thanks.

June, Susan, Stephen FOSTER

03/08/2010

Dear Phil

On behalf of myself and my three daughters may we thank you for the lovely service you gave in memory of Geroge, our darling husband and father.

I have been able to show the service you printed out and gave to us to some friends who were unable to attend the service, they said that it was George exactly. I can sit and read it at any time. Again many thanks.

Lilan Burnlees

03/08/2010

Phil

I would like to thank you once again for making Craig's funeral something that we can look back on with warmth, pride, and comfort.

It truly was a fitting tribute to our wonderful son. Sorry you could not make it to the hotel afterwards which was packed with all Craig's friends and family, many of the younger ones carried on their remembrance into the early hours.

The collection for the Bluebell Wood Childrens Hospice was an amazing £702 which we will donate in Craig's name.

Once we have Craig's ashes I will be in touch. If you are available we would like to take you up on your kind offer to say a few words at the interment.

Thank you for making the day so very special for us all.

kind regards

George Galloway

Hi Phil

Just wanted to thank you very much for your part in Dad's service. Everyone said that it was a lovely service and most appropriate to Dad. Thank you for helping it make it special and thanks for your superb singing voice!

Kind regards

Jill

Phil

Thank you for carrying out our mum's service today. We are very grateful for what you've done and very happy with the service and how everything went.

Thank you, I will be sure to pass on your best wishes to the rest of the family.

Danny

Thank you Phil for the lovely service you gave at our mums funeral,we could'nt have wished for better.

We would highly recommend you.Thanks once again M&D Backhouse

also thankyou for emailing the service to us.

2/02/2011

Dear Philip,

I just wanted to write and thank you so very much for the beautiful service that you gave for my Mothers Funeral. The tone and content were exactly what we wanted as a family and it gives us great comfrot to know that mum had a beautiful and very perssonal 'send off'.

Thank you for your patience, kindness and understanding - you provided just what we needed and we are so very grateful.

With very best wishes.

Lee, Keith and Jason xx

March 2011

Hi ,Thank you for sending the revised service ,as promised.We all appreciate the care and attention you paid to-day .Thank you for your help at this difficult time.We wish you well for the future.

Best wishes​

Chris Beever

Dear Mr Spicksley

I would just like to say what a lovely way you gave my husband Desmond Horton's Celebration of his life.

Everyone said it was the best they have been to, and when you put on the Dragon Fly, for the children they keep talkking about it, so once again thanks and I hope when my turn comes you will do the same for me.

Yours truly G. Horton

Phil,

On behalf of myself and my family please accept my thanks and appreciation for the service you provided in Rotherham yesterday in honour of my uncle Ken.

The family were impressed with the readings which provoked much thought and discussion afterwards in the pub.

Kind regardsDavid Lowe

01.04.2011

Dear Philip

Dennis and I want to say a special 'Tha nk you' for all your help and quidance during a difficult time. You were first class. Peggy Wright

02/04/2011

Dear Philip

I just wanted to write and thank you for the wonderful service you gave at my partners recent funeral and to say how much everybody enjoyed it. The feedback I have had has been amazing and a great comfort to me. They all liked the poem Life Between the Dash and I thank you very much.    Lilias

18/05/2011

Just like to say thank you for the service for Jack, Everyone said it was excellent and you put all the bits I told you together very nicely. Thanks again Cynthia

29/06/2011

Letter sent to the Co-operative Funeralcare, Doncaster July 2011

  Dear Louise

I just wanted to say thank you to all the Co-op Funeral Care staff who took care of my mother’s funeral on April 21st. We were all impressed by the courteous and professional approach of everyone we met from your organisation. Thank you also for putting us in touch with Philip Spicksley, whoconducted the service at Rose Hill. I would highly recommend Phil to any family who do not wish to have a religious service. It felt as if a family friend was speaking to us at the crematorium: he had taken the time to find out about my Mum’s life and her family, his speech was interesting and a comfort to us all. Phil also came with us tosay a few words when we buried the ashes and he made this small event into a touching occasion. Please pass on my thanks to your colleagues. Kind regards

Julie Lovett

 Funeral of Billy Stathan 27/06/11 Lincoln

Phil

As a family we would like to pass on our sincere thanks for the way you conducted the funeral service of our loved on e Billy Stathan.

The 27th June 2011 will remain in our minds forever, and to have had the support from yourself made the day so much more bearable.

From start to finish, everything we asked of you, you delivered. We had so many friends who attended the funeral ask us how long the gentleman conducting the service had known Billy, for us to reply saying, he didn't they were amazed. That itself is true credit to you and a mark of your professionalism. Many friends and family remarked on wheat a wonderful funeral it was and how proud Billy (Dad) would have been.

We would also like to say Thankyou for your time on 18th August for the Internment, again a special touch on what again is a bad day. Our family will have no problems in recommending your service.

Once again a huge thankyou from Linda, Andrea, Darren and all the family xxx

 Service for Mr Oliver, Rossington 22/08/2011

 Hi phil, I just wanted to thank you for the service yesterday for my dad edward oliver. He would have been really pleased with how it went- his favourite hymn, and the brass band music, the poems and what was said. People have said it was the best funeral they had been to, so thankyou once again. Regards, Elaine chapman

Another nice testiment Hello Phil --- I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for today's service. It was pitched at exactly the right level and you conducted it beautifully, my dad would have appreciated your words. All the family were very pleased with the outcome. You have obviously found your vocation.

 Funeral of Margaret Chapman Lincoln. 30/08/2011

 Hi Philip,

I just wanted to say many thanks for the service you took yesterday. Many of Mums friends who attended the service commented very positively. As a family we thought it was perfect and a fitting tribute to her.

We will be in touch in a few months when we have sorted out the ashes and internment. 

I enclose the letter I have written to Co-op funeral directors recommending your services. Good Luck. 

Best Wishes

Karen

 Extract from the letter to Lincoln Co-Operative Funeral Directors

 Mr. Philip Spicksley was suggested when discussing service type and I would highly recommend this gentleman to you. Prior to the service he visited my Brother and myself to discuss the service and to gain insight into our family life and how to ensure the service was a fitting tribute to our Mum. Mr. Spicksley wrote a wonderful tribute to her having gained insight into her life and e-mailed this to me for approval prior to the service. We found this gentleman very approachable, with excellent communication and listening skills which enabled him to provide a service sensitive to our need and personal to our Mother. Many of the people who attended the funeral commented positively about the funeral service and the fitting tribute paid to Mum by Mr. Spicksley.

 Funeral of Mrs Chapman August 2011

Thank you for all your kind help with Jeans Funeral Service and helping us through our sad time.

Margaret remarked at what a good singer you were at the service.

Many thanks.

 Funeral of Maurice Sadler Dec. 2011

Hello Phil ,thanks again for the service, it was very well received and I think the committal and closing address were superb. If you could email me a copy that would be great, as I've already had requests for it. All the best,Wayne

 December 2011

Hi Phil

Thank you so much for your contribution to Rene's commital last Wednesday.People have commented how good the service was and Alan, Willie and myself are very pleased with how sensitive you delivered it.We wish you a very happy new year.Avis, Alan and Willie Straw

Baby Kelsey Wed. 18/01/2012 at Rosehill, Crem.

Philip

We would like to thank you for the excellent service you provided for the celebration of the brief life of our daughter Kelsey on the 18/01/2012, It was all we expected and more, It was conducted in a very professional manner and in a way that made the occasion easier to cope with,

Once again our most sincere thanks, Tony & Nadine

Funeral of Mrs Gardener at Rosehill Crem Jan 2012

 Dear Mr. Spicksley

                                    Just a note to thank you for service you took for my mother Mrs.Babara Gardiner on the17/01/2012 at Doncaster crematorium.

All our friends and relatives commented on the service and how nice it was that it was about our mother and her life.

So again thank you on behalf of our family and could you please send have a copy of the service as my sisters and I would like a copy.

Yours faithfully

 Funeral of Mrs Buelah Homer Rotherham Crem. Jan 2012

 Many thanks Philip

I had many complements about the service you conducted and, yes, therewere long discussions at the Travellers Inn, which had some of mum'sphotos and a copy of the full set of the notes left by Beulah.It could not have been a better celebration of her life Many thanks David & Joan

Funeral of Jim Hennessey Doncaster Feb. 2012

Hello Phil

I just wanted to say a big thank you for the service you did yesterday, it was so much about Dad, and was a true reflection of the person he was.

So many people commented afterwards that they had 'bizarrely' enjoyed the service, and Dad would have loved that

Thanks again

Janet and David

Funeral of Mr Jim Hennessey. Doncaster Feb. 2012

Further to this funeral

I am writing to thank you for doing the service so well, it was presented just how we had envisaged and how my father would have liked it to be; all the guests commented on the fact that it focused on Dad's life rather than on his illness and death and many said that they would like to have a similar service when they passed away

David Hennessey

Funeral of Mr W. Beardsmore Rotherham 15/02/2012

Dear Mr Spicksley, Thankyou for the service which you designed around Bill's life.

I found the music fitted the service beautifully, also I found the experience comforting and peaceful.

Sincerely Hazel

Funeral of Mr Trevor Wright March 2012

Hello Philip,

On behalf of my mum,myself and sister, we would like to express a huge thank you to you for the lovely celebration service yesterday. It was both comforting and a lovely tribute to my dad.

Many thanks

Vicky and family

Funeral for Pauline Rounce June 2012 for Naylors Funeral Directors, Scunthorpe

Dear Phil

Thank you for delivering the eulogy for my Mum at the crematorium last Wednesday (06/06/12). It was commented on by a number of people and I was especially appreciative of the professional and solicitous manner in which it was conducted.

You kindly volunteered to email me a finished version, incorporating the dragonfly story, and I in turn have undertaken to pass it on to those who have requested it.

Jane.

Funeral for Charles Field June 2012 for H & HJ Hutesons of Barton

Dear Phil

I would like to thank you so much for the lovely service you wrote and gave for Charles, it was truly lovely and everyone commented about how well it was presented. You made it sound like you knew Charles and conducted the service with empathy and professionalism.

Once more many thanks.

Jean

Funeral of Kenneth Bath Wed. 13th June 2012

Hi Phil,

I would like to say a huge 'thank you' for the lovely service you gave for my dad, Ken Bath. It had just the right tone - not too serious with lighter moments! Many people commented after how it gave a real sense of what my dad was and the life he had shared with us all. Would it be possible for you to send a copy of the service to me please as we would like to send it to others that were not able to be there?

Funeral for Helen Hinch and then Jeff Hinch 3 weeks later in June/July 2012

Dear Phil,

I would just like to thank you for the kindness and commitment shown for both my late parents, Helen adn Jeff Hinch. they were both beautiful services and friends and family were very grateful, mot of all myelf, Robert and Sarah are grateful for every input given by us which you read so well.

Anyway this is just to say thank you from the bottom of our hearts.

Yours sincerely

Becky, Sarah and Rob and family.

P.S. I will be recommending your services to anyone who requires them.

Funeral of Thomas Inwood - August 2012

Dear Phil,

I would just like the opportunity to thank you again for the celebration of life service you arranged and conducted for my family.

I appreciated the time you spent with us, discussing and eliciting information about my father. Equally you led the service sensitively and with this personal focus, and all of us (family, friends and neighbours) have commented upon the way this type of service and your delivery of it reflected Dad;'s life. The addition of your powerful singing voice was an unexpected bonus!

I hope you don't mind me saying that your approach and friendly professionalism is exemplary and perfect for this role. with much appreciation and best wishes.

Sheila Knowles on behalf of my mum and brother.

Tom Nicholls. Woodlands Scunthorpe.

To Phil, Thank you for the lovely service for my late husband Tom Nicholls, so many relatives & friends remarked about the lovely service. Thank you so much. Angie Nicholls

Dennis Halliday Grimsby Crem Monday 29th October 2012

Hi Philip re: Dennis Halliday service on 29th October 2012 Just wanted to say a huge thank you for the way you conducted the service for Dad. Many of the relatives and friends present smiled (and at one point laughed) at the anecdotes of his life, but we were also given the opportunity to quietly reflect on our loss. We found the service comforting but at the same time uplifting. It was a true celebration of Dad's life and one that reflected his personality perfectly. Many Thanks Lorraine (ps-Please would it be possible to email a copy of the service and readings as some of those attending have asked if they could have a copy to pass onto relatives unable to attend.)

Valerie Riches Lincoln Crem. Thursday 15th November 2012

Hi Phil, I just wanted to pass on our thanks as a family for a wonderful celebration of Mum's life. So many people have commented on what a personal service it was and made them remember so many little things about the good times. If possible we would be grateful if you could send an electronic copy of the service for us to keep safe as a reminder. We have even had a request for one of the poems, so I think the choices you helped us with were good ones. Once again many thanks Tracey

Stephen Ketton Rosehill Crem. Doncaster December 2012

Hello Philip,Thank you for sending the transcript through and thank you for theservice. Many people commented what a lovely funeral it was.Regards, Debra.

Roger Hallam Woodlands Crem. Scunthorpe March 2013

Hello Phil,

Thank you very much for yesterday.Everyone told me that they thought that the service went very well.Your advice helped me in how to prepare my few words.One of our relatives did not believe that you did not know my Dad.I would not have any hesitation in recommending you to friends in the future.Thank you for the Celebration of Life brochure that you gave me.Carolyn would love a copy too if that would be possible.I would be happy to pay for it.

Marjorie Peters Woodlands Crem. Scunthorpe 23/052013

Sandra and I would like to thank you for the service you performed for my late mother Marjorie. Several of our friends were interrested to know who you are and commented on the service you delivered!

Tony Peters (Epworth)

Tony Alexander Woodlands Crem Friday 21st June 2013

Hi Phil

On behalf of all the family I just wish to express my sincere thanks for the wonderful service last Friday. As you could see from our faces we were all touched by the occasion and your words did indeed offer us comfort on the day.

Dad's friends and neighbours who were in attendance all said how wonderful the service was and how they too were touched by Dad's life story.

You mentioned that you could email over a copy of the transcript, would that be possible please as I would like to send a copy through to Dad's remaining family back in Scotland.

Once again many thanks for making the service so personal and special to us, an excellent job!

Jayne

Graham Smith Woodlands Tuesday 24th September 2013

I just wish to give our heartfelt thanks for the way you shared the details of my brother Graham Trevor Smith's life in the eulogy and so carefully lead the service in the chapel last Tuesday.

It made the whole moment so much more bearable.,A big thank you again.

Please could you also send the full transcript emailed to me at this email address, (sister Caroline)

Joan Ewins Woodlands Tuesday 14th January 2014

Hi Phil

Would just like to say thank you for the wonderful service you did for us yesterday. Everyone said how nice it was and I would certainly recommend you to other family and friends.

If you could send me a copy of the service I would be very grateful.

Once again many thanks

Kind Regards

Pat Pettit

Eric Tomlinson Woodlands Scunthorpe Monday 10th February 2014

Hello Phil,

On behalf of all of our friends and family, I want to thank you for the services you provided at our Fathers funeral.

The service and your speech was wonderful. Our Mother was delighted that everything came together so well.

I should be pleased if you could send my sister and I an electronic copy of the hard copy service booklet you provided on the day.

Again, many thanks from all of us. Peter Tomlinson

John Burniston April 2014 Scunthorpe Crematorium

Hi Philip

Just back to work today and I wanted to thank you for last week doing my Father’s funeral.

The service was very professional and I had many comments from people how nice it was and the stories made them remember my Father well.

You mentioned to remind you on sending me a copy via email of the proceedings so I can send to our friends in Spain, if you could that would be much appreciated.

Once again thank you from all of our family.

Kind regards

Lee Burniston

Michael O'Leary Scunthorpe Crematorium April 2014

Dear Phil

Many thanks again for your caring and respectful words at the cremation of my husband - Michael Joseph O'Leary

at Woodlands crematorium on April 15. My husband's elderly aunt from London was unable to attend and I am hoping that you can send me an email/copy of the Celebration of Life which you kindly prepared for me.

Regards

Alyson O'Leary

Alan Jackson June 2014 - Woodlands Crematorium Scunthorpe

Dear Philip

Thank you very much for the wonderful service you gave on behalf of my brother Alan, everyone who attended war very impressed on how wonderful it was.

Once again many thanks on behalf of myself and family, yours sincerely. M. Oldfield

Ray Townend - Service at Rossington Hall followed by burial at Respect Burial Ground Bawtry

Good morning Philip,

From my mum, my sister Natalie and myself we would just like to say a huge thank you for the service you conducted for my dad last Thursday.

Everything went so well and the words which were spoken were just as my dad would have wanted. I don't think we have ever heard so many compliments - along with the tears there were plenty of smiles and giggles ...... just as we wanted.

It was so lovely to meet you and being able to use your skills and expertise. We couldn't have asked for anything better.

Could I please ask if you could email the transcript of the service so Natalie and I can have a copy.

Thanks again, it was wonderful.

Kind Regards

Alison Johnson

Hi Phil. Apologies for the delay in contacting you, but I just wanted to express my sincere thanks for your kind, empathic and professional services for both my father John Waugh, and my husband Terry back in April and May respectively. There were lots of very positive comments about your style of service and many people seemed very much to prefer it to ones they had encountered previously. I am sure that the kind of service you offer will continue to grow in popularity in the years to come, and would like to wish you all the best for the future, in both your professional and personal life. Christine Reay

Funeral of John Speedy, Woodlands Crematorium Scunthorpe 17/12/14

Dear Mr Spicksley

During my darkest hours of trial I have many at the moment, I pick up the funeral service so wonderful designed by you for my dearest husband.

It gives me not only great comfort but makes me remember our happy and most romantic times. You have a great gift in you by turning a most dreaded occasion into something warm and normal. 

My friends all left the crematorium relaxed and comforted as I was.

I would like to thank you most sincerely.

I do hope that when my time comes, which at my age cannot be long you will do the same for me and let your wonderful voice ring out.

James Simmons, Woodlands Crematorium Scunthorpe March 2015

Dear Phillip,

My wife and I wish to thank you for the wonderful service you conducted on Wednesday last, and I would particularly like to thank you for giving me time to compose myself enough to say what I wanted to say for James.

Ref. your offer, we would indeed be grateful if you would be so kind as to download to us the service you conducted. We will put this in James Memory Box along with other items precious to his memory.

Eddie Beattie Lincoln Crematorium

Thursday 9th April 2015

Good Morning Philip,

Many thanks for the service yesterday, it was very sympathetically and thoughtfully carried out.

It was obviously an emotional occasion but Audrey and her family would like to thank you for the thoughtful and sympathetic way it was delivered.

The ladies particularly liked the way you addressed Eddie directly, which we all thought was a nice touch.

These things are always difficult but it went as well as can be expected, plus i will have to thank Priestly and Cocket for the very professional way they performed.

Best Regards        Dave and Audrey Raggett